Everyone loves sprinkles. Sprinkles on cupcakes. Sprinkles on cookies. Sprinkles are a universal love language wherever you find them. Yum. They make you smile, don’t they? Kindness is a universal love language as well, no doubt. Yes, even with men. Never underestimate the impact of kindness, especially when delivered from a confident, powerful, and feminine woman. This Valentines Day, try one, two, or a dozen simple thoughtful ideas that ooze kindness and caring compassion to melt the heart of the man in your life (or the one you want in your life). Notes. From a long love letter, to a simple card, to a series of small notes scattered about, written notes can touch his soul. Tell him what it is that you like, love and admire about him- his personality, values, little oddities, likes and dislikes. Tell him how much you appreciate what he does on a daily basis or maybe something big over the course of your relationship. What does his soul possess that you are grateful for?
* I love the way you look in a white t-shirt, blue jeans and Frye boots. * It’s so cool that you love to build things. * I really appreciate it that you make coffee every single morning, and never complain about it. * Your curiosity about life and learning new things really makes me smile.
Actions. Think about his favorite things in life and pick one, two or a dozen to incorporate into his day. What is his favorite food, candy, or drink? What is his favorite pastime? Maybe it’s a thumb’s up to a hunting weekend, a Vegas weekend or night out with the boys. Which outfit does he love you on the best- that extra short little black dress with those uncomfortable stilettos? Maybe it’s the racy lingerie instead of the sweet cute ones? How does he like your makeup and hair- curly or straight, smoky eyes or au natural? Put away those frumpy sweat pants, shave, wax, and paint your toes (and not blue, unless that really makes him smile).
Don’t let your man’s tough exterior fool you. All men are little boys deep inside who absolutely love (and dare I say, even, need….) the caring, thoughtful, and gracious touch from the woman in their life. Don’t be skimpy. Would you rather get 3 roses or two dozen?
Let kindness sprinkle your Valentine’s date, and entire day this year, whether you cook a foodie feast of all his favorites or let him take you out to a fancy dinner and dancing, to putting together a creative scavenger hunt through out town to even snuggling up and having a non-traditional evening in, being cozy, ordering pizza, and watching a movie. One of my most favorite Valentines was skipping the fancy dinner and having a hamburger at Hut’s Hamburgers (a beloved, funky dive in Austin, Texas). It was oddly intimate and a whole lot of fun!