Is it even possible to have a normal date (as you once did) and a candle lit dinner amidst every thing the world is bringing you. Maybe you're new social life consists of party after party for those under the age of 10 and, to be honest, you're too tired to even think about a date. How does today’s busy couple stay connected and still feel that they have time for each other? What I've learned as I work with busy women to create a Personalized Fitness Plan, is that most women are overwhelmed with life. How in the world do you make time for exercise, much less have quality time with your husband?
For my marriage, we have to sometimes get creative and think outside of the normal dates we once had when our life was simpler. Yet I still feel connected since we've made it a priority to find ways to spend time together.
A date for this busy couple may look something like this.
- A walk or run
When my husband and I need to catch up or discuss certain things going on in life, we love putting on our shoes and going for a run or walk. We tell the kids to grab their scooter or bike and head outside with the family. While they are busy seeing who is the fastest, we are getting connected and spending quality time together. We've also from time to time made a commitment to work out or train for a local race together.
- Have Lunch
We don't always have time for a long dinner nor can we always make arrangements for a babysitter, so we schedule lunch. The key words for a busy couple are “schedule it". It's more likely to happen if you set a specific date and time and put it on the calendar that just having good intentions to make it happen.
- Friend exchange
Some times we just need to have one hour for dinner. We're fortunate to have best friends who need the same. Babysitters can be expensive and not many want to waste one hour….which may be all they get. Find a couple who's willing to keep your kids for an hour or two for a date night and be sure to find a time to offer the same to them.
The key is thinking outside the box. You can still have romance and quality time. It just may not be the way you once did.