"If you play with fire, you're going to get burned." How many times have we heard this saying? It isn't until we're left with a fresh wound and later an unsightly scar, that we realize, "Whoever said that was right". "Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak." Matthew 26:41 Ladies, lets keep it real. Singleness, however fun, can seem lonely without the warmth of a mans touch and embrace. So when the Lord tells you, "It's not that time yet," it's frustrating to look at yourself everyday and wonder, "I'm young, intelligent, beautiful and successful, so why don't I have someone?" I recently went out with a group of friends and found myself bombarded by couple is love....better yet, couples in lust. I heard the enemy saying, "You'll never have that. Who would want to love you?" And with that, I began me descend. Ugh, the late night text, or the "booty call" as it's more commonly known. I reached out to an old flame I thought would come to my rescue and feed my insecurities with meaningless touch. As if that wasn't bad enough, I was rejected. He told me he was in a "committed relationship", but would love to see me the next day for coffee just to catch up. My ego was bruised, my body left cold and my soul distraught over how I had strayed so far. I thought I left that stuff behind when I gave myself to Christ, but the flesh IS weak. Apparently, I didn't feel bad enough because I was still contemplating taking the "sloppy seconds" and having coffee with the guy. That was until I told the story to a friend who told me, "Cancel it!" She was holding my feet to the fire and made me realize, I was merely being tempted by the enemy. The truth is, to God, I'm always first pick . I'm loved both emotionally and physically by Him and unlike any other man, He WILL be faithful. So, I axed the meet-up and slammed the door in the enemy's face saying, "I'm the Kings daughter and not just any man will do. I'll wait on the Lord to provide the perfect son for his perfect daughter. Heavenly father, Help me to wait patiently on your perfect will and lead me away from temptation. Help me remember that I AM lacking nothing, so long as I am filled and satisfied with your love. Thank you for teaching me and my future mate (whomever he is) what a real husband. More than that, thank you for choosing me to be yours first. I AM your bride! "As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness." Proverbs 26:11 "He remembered us in our weakness. His faithful love endures forever." Psalm 136:23
He loves me, he loves me not. He loves me, he loves me not. How many times have we pondered that thought in our head over and over? We wrestle with the thought trying to dismiss it until finally, the dreaded day comes….Valentines! Ugh! The answer we dreaded the most pierces our hearts as the 14th arrives and our prince charming has still not called. To make matters worse we are forced to bare all the commercials and red and pink hearts at every turn that all seem to be screaming, ‘Where’s your date girl?” Well, who said Valentines just had to be for couples or just about romantic love? When I was single, I found the best way to beat the Valentines blues was to hang out with my girlfriends. And you know what? I love my girlfriends! They were and still are at times the best date I have all week! Great girlfriends are the best Valentines gift a girl can ever have. So, if this Valentines your find yourself repeating the phrase, “He loves me, he loves me not,” throw away that old flower and ditch the table for one. Instead, make room at the table for as many as you want by planning a fun night out with the girls. Here’s some great ways to feel the love on Valentines.
*Dancing! Valentines is a great night to put on your favorite red dress and head out for a night of dancing with the girls. The guys will all wonder, “Why doesn’t he love her? She’s hot!” Plus, dancing the night away with great friends is always a blast!
*Spa Day/Weekends is one of the best ways to say, “I love you!” Pamper yourself with a great mani/pedi, Swedish massage or facial. Heck, try all the above! It’s better than a box of chocolates! Girl spa days refresh the mind and heart!
*Fancy dinners aren’t just for couples. Make reservations at one of your favorite restaurants for all your girls and enjoy!
*Plan a cozy night in watching chick-flicks. Watching chick-flicks with the girls you don’t have to worry if they see you cry, laugh at cheesy jokes or be irritated with all of those never-ending sighs that always seem to come from a bored date.
So girls, get up and set a table for a lot more than one this Valentines. You’re worth it! Don’t let ridiculous advertisement with red hearts yell louder than you. Shout back “I’m single, I’m sassy and I’m fun!”
Happy Valentines, girl!