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Seeing is believing

"Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see."                                                                     Hebrews 11:1

You've been running for miles, and are exhausted. The race is almost over. Not too far off in the distance, you see the finish line. What happens next? All of a sudden, you get this second wind, and you're running faster than ever. The finish line is coming at you at lightning speed. Next thing you know, you've crossed the finished line!

Can you see your dreams in the distance? No? Then why not pretend like it? Recently, I began purchasing magazines and dowloading images on my computer of things or dreams I desire to achieve. They may be things that seem far off in the distance, but with a vivd imagination and a pair of scissors, a girl can work wonders!

To anyone else, buying a bridal magazine when not only are you not engaged, but you havent had a date in months, may seem proposterous. But to me, it's visualizing my dreams....speaking things into existance.

I cut out the image I associate with my future, and write a scripture next to it...I write the TRUTH next to it. Everyday, I look at them and SEE my dreams coming to life.

I've not only done this in bridal magazines, but others as well. Homes, cars, in fact, I've got a whole page of TODAY Show cut-outs....my dream job.

Ever purchased flower seeds before? What's on the package? Is it a picture of the seed, OR a picture of what the seed WILL BE? I think you get the picture...pun intended.

 

Heavenly father,

Help me to stay strong in my faith, and remeber that no father ever hears their child crying out for something only to turn their back on them.

Keep me from becoming discouraged when it seems the finish line is far off. Instead, over-run me with your love, so I don't notice the miles, but instead, enjoy the ride.

"You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it," Matthew 21:22.

Not Your Ordinary Newlywed Advice

Maybe I was naïve, or maybe I was just incredibly idealistic but the hardest lesson to learn as a young bride was that life is not like the movies. I’m stepping out on a limb here but I don’t think I am the only girl who cried in her pillow at night when the honeymoon was over.  Looking back after almost 20 years of marriage, I’ve learned a lot - a lot that you might not normally read in one of those 2 pound bridal magazines. So here are my top three tips for new brides:

1. Disagree – Conflict is a normal part of healthy relationships. There is a Bible verse that says “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.” My husband and I did our best to follow this rule in our early years, but I’m not sure it means what we thought it meant. Believe me; no one solves a relational conflict at 2 o’clock in the morning after arguing since dinner.  What we’ve found that works for us is to say: “You and I are at an impasse. I love you, but I don’t agree with you and the longer we stay up the less progress we make. Let’s agree to disagree tonight and come back to this when we are not emotionally wasted.” I get a little time to process and we get to take a fresh look at our issue.

2. Be Stubborn – When those challenges do come, hold on tight to your commitment to each other.  You may feel like throwing your hands in the air and giving up, dig in your heels and take a stand instead. Don’t give up easy!  But know that there IS a difference between commitment and resignation. I’m not suggesting anyone resign themselves to living in the muck and mire of relational difficulties.  I made my bed and now I have to lay in it – Gross, NO!  One of the greatest features of the human race is our ability to change and grow. Stubbornly hold on to the hope that you can change and grow together!

3. Lower Your Expectations – This is not to say lower your standards, nope that would certainly mean a bigger mess. This is to say that as lovely as it would be there will most likely NOT be a sunset backlighting your hair with an angelic glow when you have to confess that you went over budget on your girlfriend shopping trip. And I don’t know what kind of super hero vision Beyonce has but I have never seen a halo around my man’s head.  You did not marry a perfect guy and you are not a perfect girl.  Expecting perfection will set you up for major disappointment. Anticipating the challenges of life will put you in better position to hit them head on.

Marriage is the joining of two lives. I heard someone compare it to the convergence of two rivers, those first few miles can be a little turbulent. Think of these early years as the class IV rapids adventure thrill ride.  There will be plenty of time in the years ahead for taking in the scenery. My best advice – put your hair in a pony tail, grab an oar and row!

Lynn Marie Cherry has a heart to encourage women towards freedom and plant seeds of hope. She enjoys sharing insight from God’s word and the world around her. She has been married for almost 20 years to the same great guy, they have two amazing boys. You can read more at http://lynnmariecherry.blogspot.com/