"I'll Have What She's Having"

I began working for my current employer at the age of 18, my first job out of high school.  I earned my first promotion at the age of 19 leading people who were 1 – my parents’ age and 2 – multi year veterans with the company I had been with for only a year.  Going from peer to leader in the same building was a unique challenge.  I studied the management binders in the office, could quote polices and section numbers, and above all used the leadership skills God had given me to continue to excel in my job. I was the youngest supervisor in a 150-mile radius and there were some people who didn’t let me forget it.  No one left baby food on my desk, although I’m sure it crossed a few minds, it was the attitudes, tones and eye rolls that said it all and frankly, it was hurtful.

Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.  1 Timothy 4:12 (New American Standard Bible)

Remember when you’re hired by a business it’s because they see something special in you.  You have a skill, quality or trait that they want to incorporate into their business.  Be open to learn from your new co-workers who come from so many different backgrounds.  If you’ve been hired to be the new boss, treat people with respect and show them God’s love in your every day managing of the business.

Young or experienced, when you are exuding Godly qualities, it is tough for people not to be drawn to you.  As Christians we are called to be good role models and with the media romanticizing sex tapes, gossip and girls behaving badly we have our work cut out for us. 

Our goal should be for people to say, “I’ll have what she’s having.”

Stoplight Prayer:  Father in heaven thank you for giving me the opportunity to show your love and faithfulness.  Help me to lead by example and not fall into the traps set our enemy.

Still hungry?  Learn a lesson from Jesus in John 13:12- 15.

Memories=Love ....Valentine's Day Ideas

Valentine's Day is around the corner and  there's still time to plan and make the day spectacular for those you love most. Longtime Love

  1. Pull out those photos that are piled up in your desk or displayed on your frig. Put  them in chronological order in a small photo album. Write a sentence or two about the occasion pictured and you have just documented your relationship.
  2. Do the unexpected and plan a date doing something he loves and you generally avoid. Whether it is a weekend camping, a hockey game or an afternoon of ESPN, he will know you care when you give up your own interests for his.
  3. Create a  coupon book he can redeem with coupons that include things he loves like:
  • an hour long massage from you
  • breakfast in bed
  • take his car or truck to be washed and detailed
  • sitting with him and watching the movies he loves and you don't (for me that would be war movies)


  1. Develop a traditional Valentine Breakfast and prepare it each year. I've made individual Strawberry Shortcakes for my family for over twenty years. It's a treat reserved only for Valentine's Day.
  2. Hide some treats in your home, give your children clues and have a scavenger hunt in your own home. Follow this link for great  clues that are already written
  3. Teach your kids about loving others. Make or buy Valentine cards and deliver them to residents of  nursing home in your area.

Lonely Loved One

  1. Frame a photo of the two of you together. Attach a note that includes I remember when....... and you made me feel....
  2. Set aside a little time to spend with Lonely Loved One.  Someone who feels alone would probably love joining you as you grocery shop or sitting in the car with you while you wait for your child in dance class.

No matter what you do to celebrate Valentine's Day or whom you celebrate with, keep this thought in mind:

Love does not dominate: it cultivates.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Relieve a Little Muscle Tension

“My back aches, I feel tight and stiff.”  Have you ever said this or felt this way? When I have clients tell me they feel tight, stiff or have joint pain, the first thing I ask is if they perform regular stretching exercises.  I usually hear “no, I know I should.”  After years of preaching stretch, stretch, stretch, I have to remind myself constantly to  take time and schedule a few minutes to stretch after each workout or I will pay for it later. We have a short amount of time to exercise and want to use it burn a few extra calories or think there is not enough time to fit in stretching with all we have to do. However, many times, when our back goes out or we suffer from low back pain, it is not due to one specific injury, but because we have not taken the time to work on our flexibility and the constant wear and tear on our muscles. Stiffness and back pain can be caused by a lack of flexibility. Regular stretching makes you feel better by reducing muscles soreness, low back pain and stress, and assist your body to move easily and prevent injury. Our flexibility does decrease with age, but by incorporating a regular stretching program, you can feel younger and more relaxed with less aches and pains.

Stretching exercises can be done at different times, but must be done when your muscles are warm.   After a work out of any kind, it is a without a doubt the most important time to relieve tension in your working muscles.  At the end of the day, especially if you have sat at a desk all day, a hot shower or warm bath is a great way to warm up and relax the muscles for a few stretching exercises before bed.

Here a few guidelines to follow with your stretching:

  • Before beginning, make sure muscles are warm
  • Take a deep breath in and exhale as you move toward the stretch
  • Take the stretch to your point of tension and not any further – Do not force it!
  • Hold each stretch for 15-30 seconds
  • Repeat 2-3 times for each muscle stretched.

 Remember you can take quick breaks throughout the day when you feel a little tension or need a break.  My 2 year old has learned it is kind of fun to jump back and forth over mommy’s leg when she is stretching.  He has even been my cheerleader by saying, “stretch mommy stretch.”  It can be done anywhere.  No special place, no special equipment.

To learn more about having a personal fitness plan and how to be fit for life, call me for a free consultation as your Wellness Coach at 409-550-7606 or email me at