When Life is Out of Control, Clean Your Purse

Someone asked me recently if I’m an “organized person”. The answer to that question five years ago would have been a big NO. Two giant letters. N. O. Organization and neatness are gifts that come naturally to others, but for me at that time it was a permanent struggle. My kitchen table regularly had stacks of mail, some of which were unopened time sensitive letters, no one could ride in my car without me first cleaning the passenger seat and floorboard to give them proper space and cleanliness – sorry!, and my desk could not be seen under the sea of cluttered papers, folders, and books. Maybe it was the way I was raised, or a lack of personal discipline, either way; I was clearly not an “organized person”.

What is the big deal, right? What is the harm in clutter? One thing to consider is that the problem may be bigger than you think. Meaning, disorganization in our lives often starts small and gradually build as we increase our tolerance for the mess. We may not even know we’re doing it!

Our lives are made up of many seasons – hard ones, joyful ones, anxious ones, fearful ones – one overlapping the other. There have likely been or will be seasons in your life where organization will be pushed aside as your last priority and for very good reasons I am sure. Usually these shifts happen during major life changes. The key here is to identify and recognize the problem as soon as possible and rectify before the mess gets too big.

Here is the problem with clutter. As clutter grows, so does the underlying, energy sucking feeling of being overwhelmed. You feel like your body is collapsing in itself and the pressure keeps building and building bricks to an unbearable weight. Instead of walking into your work space with feelings of expectancy, possibilities, creativity, and positivity, you are met with feelings of pressure, anxiety that there is never enough time to get anything done, and even feelings of failure before you’ve even begun. You may not notice the clutter anymore, but your subconscious mind does. Your subconscious mind is involved in every decision you make and every action you take.

Author and organizing master, Pete Walsh says that clutter will affect every area of your life. Every single part of it. “You want a life built on a solid foundation, but you can’t even see the floor beneath you. You want to lose weight, but your kitchen is overwhelmed with appliances you never use. You want to build your career, but your office literally makes you feel ill. You want to change? This is where it starts: your home. Where you live, breathe, rest, love, and create. Forget the self-help books. Get rid of the clutter. Get organized. If you do, I promise that every aspect of your life will change in ways that you never imagined possible.”

If you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control, let me give you this simple piece of advice, clean your purse. Why start with your purse? Your purse is with you all day. When you are searching for your car keys on your way out of the house, when you put on lipstick on the way to work, when you pay for lunch, when you are on your bathroom break, each time your cell phone rings, you are in and out of your purse all day long and it is most likely always with you.

Even though cleaning out your purse is one small thing, it can have a big effect on your mental state and focus because of our daily interactions with it. You may be thinking, “I have much bigger clutter problems than my purse.” I believe you, and you will soon need to pay attention to the other areas of disorganization like your closet, office, kitchen, pantry, car, etc.

Have you ever heard the saying, “How you do anything is how you do everything?” I dare you to look inside your purse right now? What do you see? Do you see chaos, trash, forgotten to-do lists, and clutter? I believe our purses can be a kind of barometer for how organized and effective we are in life. A reason why you should start with your purse is precisely because it IS a small thing. When you consistently do the small things, the big things will happen too. Or as I like to think of it, as my purse goes, so does my life.

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Gather Her || 10.20.16



..whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.

Enjoy an evening with women just like you who want to explore their faith and love all things fashion:

6:30 - 8:30 pm
FREE for all women!
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At Gather Her, you will:
~ Find refuge in a lovely environment.
~ Create authentic, pure relationships through girl talk time after each message.
~ Hear truth through our monthly guest speakers.
~ Meet women who are real, fun and authentic who love to laugh during our mix & mingle time!
~ Learn how to take care of yourself as an Ambassador of Christ through our monthly fashion partner.

Light Bites & Wine provided + Photo Booth

October Guest Speaker: CW's own, Lynn Marie Cherry, Author.

Lynn has just published her first book and will share her personal journey of walking through betrayal and how we, too, can get to other side our hurts and hangups we may have experience in our lives. It's real #GirlTalk


Created Woman: Equip & empower women to be who they are created to be inside & out.

Living abandoned is hard!

Journal entry 2.10.16

“I’m tired this morning, still feeling sick and have a long day ahead of me. I need to be filled. Motivated. Feel you. Understand. Lord you set me on this journey this year to be intentional and live life fully abandoned. How? I don’t want to lose that feeling that nothing else matters except what you’ve given me. Living abandoned is hard with schedules, deadlines, running a business, social media, kids, and a husband. How do you live abandoned when there’s so much stuff to do? Even my journal entries have become a to-do list. I want my heart to be on display and do what you have told me to do but time constraints have forbid me…”

Yes, just six weeks after the New Year I’m over it! I can’t do it and am ready to give up! At least on this morning. I’m a visual person so when I envisioned living life abandoned to what God wants me to do this year, I pictured myself with arms in the air open wide, head up towards heaven with a sweet smile on my face as I breathed in the fresh, morning air. Can you picture it? It would be one of those pictures you post on Instagram with a quote written across that reads,

“His mercies are new every morning.” Lamentations 3:23

I would get inspiration daily on what the day would look like living life abandoned and gather all the grace needed in my speech and actions to do exactly what I was supposed to. My life would read just like the P31 woman whose husband thinks he’s found a wife of noble character and stands above the rest. Poised. Perfectly dressed as my children ran into my arms. Dinner would be hot and filling and the dishes would be washed in a flash as the children frolicked and played singing my praises. (Okay, maybe I knew that wouldn’t happen.) But I didn’t have a sort of feeling that once I “gave up” my agenda would get easier. Right?

But as the days went on, living life abandoned just meant picking up the things God had for me to do and doing the work! That meant my to-do list may have changed but none the less, there’s a to-do list. However, with living in Texas your immune system goes into shock when the weather decides to change from 50 degrees one day to 75 degrees the next, meaning you spend most mornings sleeping in because your achy body just won’t budge and the to-do list you just made gets thrown in the trash.

So this morning, as I write the words above, I’m finally coming to realization that the work He’s laid before me really does mean work and no matter how I feel that day, I must learn to push through. No, my speech hasn’t been the best everyday (insert husband’s smirk) and although my husband still loves me, there are days I’m sure he doubts my character. And perfectly dressed? Please! Just because I have a fashion & faith foundation doesn’t mean I’m the best at either one of those.

As for my children, just a little insight, both girls are amazing but I recently bought the book “Strong-Willed Child” by Dr. James Dobson…that should give you a glimpse into our house!

Yes, there’s tons of laughter, cuteness, a little bit of quiet time, and my husband and I actually got a date night over Valentines weekend. Praise em’! But the struggle is real whether your living life abandoned or not.

The good news is, the verse in Lamentations is real, too. His mercies are new every morning and I’m thankful that when I do lean into Him, even when I cry or whine, He gently reminds me why He has asked me to live my life completely abandoned giving up my plans and taking up the call He has put on my life.

He reminds me once again that I don’t fight against flesh and blood but again principalities.

He reminds me again that I’m not in the fight alone.

He reminds me again that if He is for me than who can be against me.

He reminds me of the women. The women who are trapped. The women who are waiting on me, the whole team and the army of women who are coming and marching together to release each one into a life of legacy.

Oh yes. That’s right. The women.

It’s not about me.

So I abandoned myself. My plans.

Abandon. For the women. The call. My purpose.

The reason I was born.


Then He showed me more and brought me deeper…..

So today, when it gets hard to live abandoned with intention, pull out your journal and lay it out for Him. Your fears, weaknesses and how you feel. He will show you what you need to do.

Help me to say “No” to meetings, places to go, things to do that don’t support my purpose and “Yes” to the things you have set before me.

It was here in the writing that I realized I once again picked things that were not important. I answered emails before I wrote, called someone before taking action on His to-do list – I was beginning to live my life abandoned when I wanted to, certain hours of the day when it fit the schedule I had laid out for the week.

Stay focused - Lead – Discern – Faith – these are my strengths. Stay in my lane, girl!

You see, He makes it clear on what you have to do. Just open the journal and start the conversation.

He will show you more and bring you deeper….

What’s your deeper?

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#4 It’s Kind Of A Big Deal

#3 It Is Well With My Soul

#2 Fancy Writing & Gold Letters

#1 What Was It All For?

Stay Pink: Supporting Breast Cancer Research All Year Round!

When you hear the words 'Breast Cancer’ or ‘Cancer’ in general, the word “Celebrate” isn’t usually the first to come to mind!  However, the closer we get to a cure and the more we get involved, the more cause for celebration there is!  For this reason, the effort to Stay Pink should radiate from deep within until the day we have a Finale Party that forever demolishes this evil beast!  Until that day, Staying Pink has almost become so effortless as so many events, products and awareness constantly help raise the resources needed.  In effort to highlight just a few as we wrap up the month of October, Here are some of my favorite ways we can forever Stay Pink!  

An obvious choice since Halloween is just a few days away, Pink Candy not only taste good, but does good too!  All the pink candy you need for Halloween and beyond plus, 7% of your purchase will go to breast cancer research. 

The Christmas gift to yourself that keeps giving for you health nuts who love to run, Reebok has come out with a Pink Ribbon Reebok Line that looks great too!  Run your heart out while keeping the awareness!   Purchases up to $750,000 will go to Avon Breast Cancer Crusade.


A good way to stay pink, is to take care of your skin.  Orgins Make a Difference Skin Rejuvenating Treatment and is donating $5 from each sale to Breast Cancer Research.


A fun way to keep pink on all year round is by sporting OPI’s Pink shatter on your nails.  It's fun, sassy & very pink!  OPI launched the limited edition Pink Shatter: Pink of Hearts Nail Lacquer to support Susan G. Komen for the Cure in its promise to save lives and end breast cancer forever, $8.50, ULTA Stores




Avon who has been an advocate for breast cancer research for years designed this pastel pink jacket in which 100% of net profits  are donated to Avon Breast Cancer Crusade, $45,  Stay Pink even throughout the winter!

Reese Witherspoon & friends at the Avon Foundation for Woman Event



In support of research in the name of fashion, Ford designed the Ford Warriors T-shirt for only $25.



Director of the movie 'Five' - Alcia Keys, Jennifer Anniston, Demi Moore

What's the best way to get people listening?  Get 3 of the biggest names in Hollywood to direct 5 short films exploring the impact of breast cancer on people's lives.  Set your DVR for November 5thor  6thon lifetime to see these incredible stories.  They will encourage you to Stay Pink forever!



Just in the past few weeks, one of my favorite TV Personalities, Giuliana Rancic, announced she had the early stages of breast cancer.  After undergoing surgery, she was back to work in a week!  By catching it early and now raising awareness, she is Staying Pink!  Congrats Giulina, may we all follow in your footsteps and get our mammograms, too!


"I still have a long road ahead, but thanks to everyone's overwhelming love, support and prayers, it will be an easier journey,” Rancic told E!.



As the face of Estee Lauder, British actress, Elizabeth Hurley attended the Estee Lauder Breast Cancer Awareness Month Event held at the Selfridges Department Store in London on September 29, 2011.

As part of a Pink Ribbon Collection designed by Elizabeth Hurley, this pink lipstick set will donate 20% to their research foundation.  See More of the Collection!


Ladies, Stay Pink all year round!  You can raise awareness, look & feel stylish while sporting some pretty cool gadgets!  It's not hard to help save lives!

Thanks for Staying Pink!

CW Beauty Tips & Picks

One of the best ways to find the best Beauty Tips is look around and get the Top Picks from women who look their best! To find out how the  CW writers always look their best I asked them to share their personl Top Picks, the things they won't leave home without. It won't surprise you to see how diverse their choices are. Fownder and owner of Created Woman, Heather, says she's been using Oil of Olay Cleanser and Moisturizer since she was thirteen. "I have tried other products but have always switched back to my tried and true. "




                    Covergirl LashExact Mascara is Erika's top pick.

"After trying all the expensive brands of mascara,

this is the one that gives me the most definition, volume and length."



Jessica says this about  100% Organic Jojoba oil!

It is 100% natural and smells great! I LOVE this stuff because it has so many uses and a little goes a long way. I use it:

  • As a lip balm
  • Added to my face/body lotion (you really only need a few drops)
  • Apply to hair then wash out as a hair mask








Every one knows Carmindy, the encouraging makeup artist from What Not to Wear. Coby's Top Pick is from Sally Hansen's Natural Beauty by Carmindy.

This is the only thing that covers my melasma (hormonal discoloration from pregnancies).The melasma was so bad after my third pregnancy and this ws the only product that covered it and still felt light and natural.



I don't start or end my day without 3 pumps of

Mary Kay Replenishing Serum + C coupled with Day/Night Solution.  

My skin is tout, it's not too heavy and I started getting carded again.





Stila Natural Finish Oil-Free Makeup foundation gives me the perfect, natural coverage. It gives me a smooth, even look and lasts all day. 



Express is a clothing store but they have such a great lip gloss! Their "Black Cherry Lip Gloss" is the perfect color for anyone. It's a pinch of red with a little cherry flavor. I love it!








                                                                       MAC Studiotech Foundation

                                                                  The coverage and finish is flawless. - Lilly

It is the only line that makes a foundation with the color I need for my ebony skin.~Cheryl


So, if you've been on the search for a better age-fighting product, mascara or foundation, give these Top Picks a try.

October Monthly Wrap up

Every Year the month of October turns Pink.  Everywhere you look pink products line the shelves of stores, celebrities walk pink carpets and pink ribbons flaunt everything from t-shirts to fingernail polish.   No matter where you live, all sorts of fundraisers and benefits pop up all around the city to help find a cure for the disease that has affected every woman. October is known nationally as Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Austin

In Austin, the 2nd annual Stiletto Stampede for the cure benefiting the Susan G. Komen Foundation dashed off on Saturday, October 16th.  Hundreds of women met at the Hill Country Galleria for the high heel dash (100 yards) with a mission to encourage young women and men to know and understand the risks of breast cancer and empower them to prevent the disease by utilizing overall Breast Self-Awareness through early detection, screening methods and education.


Celebrities showed up in droves a month early in September for the Stand Up to Cancer Telethon.  The star studded benefited raised resources for breast cancer as well as all kinds of cancer.  Christina Applegate who is a breast cancer survivor was just one of the celebrity survivors who answered phones for Stand up for Cancer this year.


But one of the biggest fundraisers happens all year round.  The Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure takes place all throughout the country and it’s not too late for you to register for one.  For over 25 years, The Komen Race for the Cure Series raises significant funds and awareness for the fight against breast cancer, celebrates breast cancer survivorship, and honors those who have lost their battle with the disease.

If you would like to register for a race near you, click here for all the races throughout the year.

Think Pink!

Building a house or a home?

Most of you know that my husband is a real-estate agent but what a lot of you don’t know is that his real dream is to build houses – that’s his passion.  He loves talking about building houses, looking at construction sites and scoping out land where houses can be built.  It’s in his blood and once he starts talking about it you can see a change in his face.  He knows every detail; how, where, what it takes and who he should build houses with.  So today as I was thinking about the story in the Bible about the wise and foolish builders I wondered how many of us know exactly how to build a firm foundation; what does that even mean?  Matthew 7:24 says that ‘The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house; yet it did not fall, because it had is foundation on the rock.’  Well, we all know I am sure the rock is Christ himself, but how do we build it?  What are the practical ways we can actually build that foundation?  I am sure a builder knows what the ingredients are to make cement; so what exactly are the ingredients to build a foundation in Christ?  I think this can answer the question how to build a just a regular house or a real home.  What do you say the ingredients are?  Let us know what you think?