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The Journey: Life of a single girl

The Journey of singleness is a gift, an adventure, turbulent and chaotic at times, heartbreaking and rewarding all wrapped in one big bow.   Exploring who you are as an individual is really only possible to its fullest while single.  How amazing that is!  Of course, there were times when I felt like I was on the single journey way too long.  But as I look back on my journey, there isn’t one thing I would change….the good, the bad and the ugly!

Every season of our lives has a reason, a story to tell, a lesson to be learned, an adventure to be had, a heart to mend and learn from.  It’s life, and life is a continuous voyage into the next season.  Today, single women are finally getting noticed for more than just being single.  We’ve figured out that, although we are not married, we are strong and intelligent, make mistakes just like everyone else, date the wrong guys, own our very own companies, serve, are wonderful friends; we are on the journey just like the rest of the world.

Life goes by too fast and is too short to live in the future always thinking, “When this happens, life will be amazing.”  The journey of life is every season and creates us into the woman we were created to be.  Embrace it, love it, live it!  I embrace my past, the lessons I learned, the friends I made and the escapades I experienced.  There all “things” that made me who I am today…. they’re all a part of my journey.  The Journey of singleness helped me identify who I was as a woman and who my husband fell in love with.  It’s the journey that taught be how to be strong, confident, soft, loving, alive and worth the wait.

Today, as I reflect on the years past, I’m thankful for all that God has given, brought and loved me through.  It’s all set me on the journey to becoming the woman I was created to be and embracing who I am today.   Single ladies, you are worth the wait!  So embrace your journey, love it, live it!

Now, While You Are Single.

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Now, While You Are Single is a practical guide to help women discover and embrace their true identity in Christ through a journey of healing, ultimately revealing God’s purpose and plan for their life while they are single. 

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Designed to Live

 In retrospect, my friend was right; I should’ve bought the pillows.

 Like powerful, turquoise magnets, they pulled my eyes the moment we turned the

corner from kitchenware into home décor, and I couldn’t help but reach out and pick them up.

They were soft, warm, and gorgeous. I flipped, squeezed, and flipped again, taking in every

rustic detail.

 I can’t wait until I get married and have a cute little home to decorate, I sighed.  And then…I put them back.  There is something about not being married that makes me feel unqualified for a well decorated home, like I can’t justify spending money on pretty things just yet. I pick out colors and candles and pictures and think, "Someday I'll turn a house into a home...someday with someone I love." And then I settle back into my empty couch without the turquoise pillows and wait, as if everything now is temporary and my real life is just around the corner.

Ladies, to be honest, I'm tired of waiting.  I could blame it on my age. I thought I’d be married with kids by now! I could blame it on my job and all the ways it doesn’t fulfill me. I could even blame it on my friends and their busyness, their moving on and moving forward and my feeling left behind. But the truth is, I'm tired of waiting for my life to start because I’m not designed to wait for it at all. I’m designed to live it.

When God wired us together, He gave each of us purpose. A unique, important role to play in His story on this earth.  And He never intended for us to ignore it or hide it or impose some kind of limitation on it, as if we’re stuck in the mundane until we marry or have kids or whatever it is we think we need before we can embrace life. When Jesus declared that He came so that we might have life and have it to the full, He didn’t mean in 5 years or 10 years or when the wedding certificate is signed. He meant now. Today. In this moment, we have the power to live a full life.  But it’s up to us to live like we believe Him, to stop chasing someday and start living in the now. I’m ready. Will you join me? Together, let’s peel back the doubts that tell us we can’t or we shouldn’t or it’s not time and reveal the purpose buried in each of our hearts. Let’s agree to pursue God and to trust Jesus.  And let’s buy lots and lots of pillows.

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and  have it to the full.”

John 10:10, NIV

 

 

Brittany is a 20something who loves frappuccinos, Texas, and salty air. She's passionate about the power and purpose of this generation and loves journeying with other 20-somethings on her blog, Faith in Between. She can also be found on Twitter (@britmwilliamson) and on Facebook (www.facebook.com/faithinbetween).

Cure for the Holiday Dating Blues

It’s only November 17th and I’ve already heard Christmas songs in several stores – surprised? Halloween just passed and Mariah is already singing “All I want for Christmas is You.”  Songs like Mariah’s famous jingle,  “Last Christmas” and one of my all-time favorites, “Blue Christmas” by Elvis Presley have seem to become our constant reminder we’ll be the only one without a date for the office Christmas party.  Wow, how….blue! So what do you do when you’re single and the Holidays are approaching?   Well, you could carry mistletoe with you everywhere but that could really backfire!  When single, I found a few cures to chase away those holiday blues that might just do the trick for you, too.

1. Throw a party – Don’t wait to be invited to a party, be the hostess of a fabulous Christmas bash everyone can’t stop talking about.  Create a dress code so that your guests feel like they've been invited to the party of the year, have great music, food, and a mix of people.  But most of all, be a great hostess!

2. Gift wrapping party – This was one of my favorites and surprisingly most fun!  Wrapping all the gifts you’ve had to buy can be daunting.  So why not make it a party with a few friends?  Have everyone bring their gifts, wrapping paper and a dish or snack and call it a party!  Before you know it, you and your friends have bonded and laughed the night away and all the gifts are ready to stick under the tree.

3. Girls night out – What better excuse to have more GNO’s than the holidays?  But for this time of year, you get to break out the good clothes; the ones you only bust out during the holidays.  Nothing beats dancing in a cocktail dress with the girls!

4. Christmas Shopping with friends – Need I say more….you’re  shopping!

5. Take a trip – Being single enables you to be free as a bird, so fly girl!  Ski trips, weekend bed and breakfast, a trip through the country, where do you want to go?  It’s a great time of year to visit friends you haven’t seen in a while or even grab friends from all across the country and go for a spin somewhere together.  You’ll never regret taking a vacation!

6. Family – Of course, the holidays are all about family, too.  Family can be anyone we’re related to or those special people around us who always seem to take care of us.  Make sure you spend time with all of them.

So this Holiday season, take advantage of the gift called singleness and do some things you may not have done before. Don’t sit around singing the blues with Elvis.  Instead, pick your own tune and you’ll find so many want to dance to it!  Just do it, now while you are single!

Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas!

What's Your Worth?

One of the biggest transitions in my single life came when I realized I couldn’t even measure up to my list of expectations I had set for my future husband.   How could I expect to meet the man of my dreams when I was a little nightmare!  The reality was I thought I was a pretty good catch.  However, God began to show me all kinds of areas that proved to be un-list worthy! In Proverbs 31 we read about the perfect wife and as a single lady, I really couldn’t stand her!  Everyone always talked about her and how to be a P-31 woman.  But what I finally realized was she didn’t wait until marriage to learn how to cook, be a good businesswoman, take care of her house, or reach out to the world around her.  The P-31 Woman was “found” that way instead of waiting around for her dream guy to just show up.  She was a single lady first who knew her worth as a savvy business lady, skilful at her trade.  A lady who studied because it says she spoke with wisdom.  The P-31 woman was a woman who thought of others and not just about her.  That’s what made her a wife worth finding because she knew her worth!

So today, I challenge you to look at your worth.  Are you list worthy or are there some areas you could stand to take a second look at.  God designed you for a purpose and I can promise you that he didn’t intend for you to start living out who you were created to be only after marriage, but now, while you are single!

In the Beginning...

When Kristian and I started talking marriage one of the first “rules” I gave him was that I did not want to be proposed to in Jacksonville. Actually, the first rule was that I wouldn’t wait around forever for a ring and our time was definitely ticking. We were approaching the two and a half year mark, which is way too long to spend with someone without them putting a ring on it. But that’s a different story; back to the “don’t propose in Jacksonville” point. Don’t get me wrong, Jacksonville has its up sides, but city life and romance are not two of them. Being from New Orleans I appreciate nightlife, history, and culture in a city.I never really “imagined” my proposal but I trusted that  Kristian would think of something much better for me  than I could come up with for myself. His first attempt, though he has never told me the whole story, went awry. He was planning a proposal in Austin but the ring arrived after we had already headed back to Jacksonville. After a few more months of waiting the time had finally come. We both had the day off and took a trip to St. Augustine, a city just outside of Jacksonville. It is so quaint and reminds me so much of home, I love it! We were riding around on a scooter when he popped the question. Yes, I waited two and a half years to be proposed to on the back of a scooter but I loved every minute of it! How perfect! I never imagined my proposal, but I always dreaded some guy being on his knee, literally taking my hand for marriage. How cliché! After he finally gave me my gorgeous ring I went into planning overload.

The happiest I've ever been on the back of a scooter!

The Nitty- Gritty The first thing we had to decide on was where we were going to tie the knot. Originally we said Dallas but after living away from home for so many years I really started to miss it. New Orleans just has a special place in my heart, even if it is never “home” again, it at least deserves to share this momentous day with me. I looked at several places online. The hard part was staying within our budget while choosing a place that personifies us. I finally decided on The Benachi House and Gardens, a historic venue in the heart of the city. It was only a short -lived relief to have the venue chosen though. I quickly realized we are technically having a destination wedding. Now I immediately start thinking time frame. Everything needs to be done a lot farther in advance in order to accommodate traveling guests. Kristian and I were having an engagement party in New Orleans just a couple of months after the proposal. We figured this was the perfect time to decide on our Save the Dates. I loved the idea of announcing our date by sending postcards from New Orleans to our friends and families in different states. Not only was this cute, but it proved to be an easy and economical idea as well. Since our wedding is only about 130 guests I hand wrote each card, which added a nice personal touch. I totally recommend this idea. I am personally technologically challenged, but for those of you who work well with computers, you can find great fonts and print straight onto the postcards. I also love all things old so if you have a typewriter this idea actually works too. I was a little worried about the postcard getting bent but I tried it in my own typewriter and no damage was done so I think its a safe suggestion!

So many wonderful options!